04 Aug 2015, Posted by Blogin
Training our brains is just as important if not MORE than training our bodies. Our mental beliefs and thoughts shape how we view ourselves, including what we believe we are capable of. For instance, you’re more likely to try something new if you’re open to the idea of it. You’re more likely to do well in a meeting with colleagues if you’re confident about your presentation and work knowledge. So how do we train our brains to become tough? To be confident? Below are a few tips to help bring positivity to your life and your mental game.
First, it can be helpful to remove excess activities, negative people or activities that bring a surplus of stress and diminish your self worth. By doing this, you’re surrounding yourself with activities, people, and going places that make you happy.
We want you to be happy and in order to be happy you have to make time to invest in what makes you happy! So secondly, YOU have to organize your life so you’re doing activities that bring out the best in you and that push you to being your greatest self. What those activities are, are up to you. Once you start incorporating activities that you enjoy doing, you will begin to be more optimistic and confident about yourself.
Now, after you start doing more of what you love, whether it’s 5 min. of alone time, reading a book, going to workout, having date nights- anything, you can also focus on actually training your self-confidence and brain. Next, are a couple additional points to start working out your brain!
It can be helpful to develop S.M.A.R.T. goals. This way you stay on track and focused. Know what you’re working toward and can see your progress. Okay, S.M.A.R.T. goals are:
- Specific – what exactly do you want? i.e. to earn a certain amount of money, to lose a certain number of lbs., to be able to successfully complete a movement/skill you previously couldn’t.
- Measurable – when would you know when you have reached it?
- Attainable – make sure your goal is possible! Don’t set yourself up for failure. Take it slow and be patient!
- Realistic – make sure your goal fits in with everything else in your life! It took you so many years to get to where you are today, don’t assume it’s going to take any less then that to change!
- Timely – set a (realistic) time frame! Again, be patient and if at first you don’t succeed- never give up!
Every accomplishment should be tracked. No matter how small you feel it is, it is IMPORTANT! Whether it’s losing (or gaining) 1lb., eating clean for 3 days, only drinking 1 cup of coffee a day, doing a set of double unders unbroken (or double unders at all!) it’s a PR (personal record) and it is a BIG deal! When we accomplish something, we feel good. That feeling, of feeling good is exactly what we want to bottle up and carry around with us. So save it in your memory, write it down, take a picture and hold on to it. Then, you’re feeling down, think of it. Look at it. Remind yourself. This way you will know you can do it and remember how far you’ve come.
The more you acknowledge and keep track of your accomplishments the better you feel and as a result you’ll enhance your self-confidence!
Moving forward, we also have to counter our negative thoughts with something positive! We MUST stop the negative talk. Whether you say it out loud or in your head, it isn’t helping anyone. How you talk to yourself will greatly impact how you perceive yourself and what you’re capable of doing. At first, you may not realize just how often you say negative things to yourself. Well, that’s another reason to start being mindful and to track it. Once you start realizing when and how often you put yourself down, you’re on the road to changing your brain. Then, every single time you say something negative about yourself you need to say something positive to replace it.
Here’s an example: Negative: “I’m exhausted and I don’t want to be here.” Positive: “I’m here. I’m ready to go, so if I get going I’ll be done soon and can relax at home.”
When we use positive talk, even if at first we don’t believe it, our brains will begin to prevent triggering our fear. When we block our fear, we become more open to trying new ideas, movements, and skills. The more positive self -talk the more you will train your brain to start believing in yourself, which will enhance confidence.